it’s said in the creation myth
God took a rib of Adam to create Eve
it’s not said
God took all the female part away from the man
when I look around in society I see a lot of insecurity
about manhood and womanhood
especially among young men
who confuse coolness and toughness with manhood
afraid of their female side
they are finally afraid of women
unsecure of themselves
and prefer more to hang around with their buddies
to confirm their manhood to each other than to be together with women
unfortunately a lot of men stay underdeveloped their whole lives
and don’t feel very comfortable in the presence of women
they are afraid of their own feelings
because they think
tenderness love vulnerability weakness softness understanding patience
are only female attributes
which don’t fit in their images of manhood as
lonely wolf superman tough guy
but these are old role clichés which are totally obsolete
tenderness love vulnerability weakness softness understanding patience
are no special female attributes
but belong to our attributes as humans
at first it’s about humanness
not about male or female
men long for women
because they assume that they could fill out their lack of emotions
women long for men
because they assume that they could fill out their lack of
sovereignty toughness stability
or what else you may suppose to be male
but all these assumed to be female or male attributes you have to find in yourself
to become a whole human
female or male is not in the foreground but to be human
man and woman are the same flesh
(Volker Schunck)
Drifter's Day 